Vibe Commentary: 6-8
Greetings All,
My appreciation for your continued interest in my perspective of LoA. As before, the content in today’s commentary is a response to the Daily Quote & Author’s input regarding the Quotes of the wise, enlightened or philosophical from the past. These “quotes” are, for the most part; the Adages & Idioms that have helped form Societal Thinking of right & wrong.
The axioms quoted are from a Different time, with ideas that meant something different then but yet Mankind ‘s consciousness has yet to advance with the technology or the Times.
My opinions are of how LoA would offer a more agreeable viewpoint to the Everyday circumstances we all experience. Remember, this is (JMO)Just My Opinion. I welcome comments or questions equally, from those interested in a different answer to the Questions of Life Paths.-(I’m open to personal, Private consultations)- Keep an Open Mind & an Interested Outlook with the Appreciation of Knowing there IS a reason to BE.-JMO
Today’s Thought: “A ‘No’ uttered from deepest conviction is better and greater than a ‘Yes’ merely uttered to please, or what is worse, to avoid trouble.”- Mahatma Gandhi
Author’s Take: Recognizing that from our earliest years, we are taught to please others, which becomes Habit. Sacrificing honesty & integrity to get along. Still needing to please, we want others to think well of us. Too many unfelt agreements will diminish our own values.
Ending Thought: “I won’t be mean or offensive, but if I say no when I see things are wrong, who will? I’m strong enough to face the consequences if I “Rock the Boat”.”
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True enough that people say they “want” to hear the truth even though we know they (we too) may take offense & agreeing only to please or “get along” is worse.
Parents (well meaning as they are) teach the children to behave in a way that doesn’t offend anyone. This habit carries through to adulthood till we no longer are sure of what we care about & what should be important to others.
Mean & Offensive are labels placed on unwanted feelings about the opinion another has when different from ours. Rocking the Boat in need, even if it hurts.!!
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Pleasing others is something we are taught, even Forced to do as soon as we can understand language. Don’t say that, don’t do this, be polite, be quiet, keep your opinions to yourself…The list is unending. Saying or Doing the “wrong” thing might OFFEND someone, somewhere & at sometime. It’s no wonder some monks take a vow of Silence.!! Will Rogers once said, “You can please some of the people all the time, you can please all the people some of the time but you can’t please all the people all the time.!”
Being silent isn’t the answer either as some will take offense to that as well. This is an old habit, again from our earliest development of society & its Rules. These origins are not relevant or important, Now; but I think a quick synopsis for clarity might shed a new light of perspective on our rules.
Remember that rules are made by RULERS. They are constructed in a way of most benefit to the Ruler.!! Like every person wanting to feel better (or good, safe, happy, comfortable…), we want the things we want so we might Feel better in the Having of it.!! Rulers, accustomed to Power & Privilege came to recognize the limitlessness of their ability. As the “old” concepts of “respect” or Honor faded over time, New measures of respect were Instituted & INFORCED.!! Bow to Royalty, limit your language, relinquish the Self for King & the Kingdom…whatever type it may be. This brings in Loyalty, patriotism, sacrifice,..for Honor, Respect…It was/is a well crafted perpetual cycle that we continue to this day. With these new rules came new definitions of “Wrong”. Where in earlier times one could speak of foreign races as they would animals & all were in agreement, including the pious & self-proclaimed, righteous. Today those same definitions “offend” almost everyone now, along with many less descriptive words. We have come to “Judge” everything & everyone with a Negative, guarded view. If it’s not Pleasing in some way, to us; we call it Offensive or Mean…& then we claim our FEELINGS are “hurt”. Meanness & Offensiveness is subject to the interpretation of the individual. This too comes from those earlier establishment of societal rules. If in power, claim offense with the ability to 1: Set an Example (of how I expect You to act so I feel better), 2: remove a potential Threat (to feeling the way I want to feel), 3: further cement the idea into society (so I can control the future & how I want to feel then!)
This is a Vibrational, Attraction based Universe where we create our own reality by the Thought & Emotional vibrations offered with each thought…(whether or not we realize, understand or believe it).
How does this affect our [inherent] “Desire” to please others.?? What if pleasing others makes me feel good.?? If I please others, won’t I get the same from them.??
Our “inherent” desire to please, is to please Ourselves.!! WE (everyone of us!) want to feel good all the time. We want things we think will “make” us feel better. We go on Vacations, out to dinners, Ballgames & concerts. We buy Houses, cars, clothes, gifts…ALL thinking these “things” will bring us pleasure. If we see another with the things WE want, we “take” offense, get jealous & angry. We say nothing or offer false praise instead of what we feel; to avoid “hurting their Feelings”. Then we go home & complain about how That makes us feel or we take out the Frustration on others…wanting to Feel better.
Any satisfaction we get from pleasing others is short lived & often turns to resentment. More so when we are Not reciprocated in kind(ness), some contemplate Revenge or avoidance, again thinking we will feel better by “giving them what they deserve”.!! We don’t know what others deserve anymore than They can know what WE deserve.
In this Law of Attraction based Universe, YOU are the LoA. The thoughts you think, are the beliefs you follow, are the emotions you feel(&/or suppress) “trying” to be happy.
This life is meant to be FUN.!! Having fun makes us Happy. It’s all Anyone wants, 1st & foremost.!! If everyone was as Happy as they Want to be, there would be No cause for conflicts, no “Greed”, jealousy, hatred or sadness. Thinking we need to please others, for Any reason, is based on Wanting to be thought Better of, to FEEL others think well of us, makes us FEEL BETTER.!!!!!!!!!
Let’s choose to feel better NOW. Each of us, individually on our own, without needing to think we need “others” to MAKE us happy or feel better or satisfied. This is an ATTRACTION based Universe, there is NO assertion.!! Another Can Not force anything into your experience without being a vibrational match to Your “active” vibration/thought.!! They are not responsible for your happiness or Well-Being anymore than you are responsible for theirs.!! If you are Happy, Satisfied with “where” you are in your Experience, the next desire to Happiness can come to us more easily. Taking care to intentionally FEEL the best possible in all situations will allow feeling better helping others to feel better. Understanding & accepting that everyone is in charge of their own feelings by their perception of the circumstance. Perceptions come from the beliefs held about the matter at hand. A Belief is just a Habit of Thought you continually Reinforce. It’s a Thought you Keep thinking.!!
Being hurt is a choice that, once made, grows with the LoA till the “pot boils over”.!! Being Happy/ Joyful/ Satisfied is a choice that, once made, grows with the LoA until it is infectious & those around you, follow your example.
You want to please others, do so from a perspective of “I’m Happy NOW.!!”…for (their successes, accolades, possessions…) & let your words be from the heart. If you’re true feeling is one you know won’t be appreciated, choose if you want more or less drama in your experience and comment…as you will; keeping in mind that you attract what you think & that YOU want to feel better too.!!-JMO
Happpy Creating!!
Universal Life Paths 