Relationships w/LoA

Today’s Vibe: 6/15-2

Greetings All,
My appreciation for your continued interest in my perspective of LoA. Today’s content is a Self-Imposed commentary in line with the Concept of the Law of Attraction. In past commentaries I took quotes from a book of daily Inspirational ideas of figures from the past.

My opinions & perspectives are of how LoA would offer a more agreeable viewpoint to the Everyday circumstances we all experience. Remember, this is (JMO)Just My Opinion. I welcome comments or questions equally, from those interested in a different answer to the Questions of Life Paths.-(I’m open to Personal, Private consultations)- Keep an Open Mind & an Interested Outlook with the Appreciation of Knowing there IS a reason to BE.-JMO

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With Law of Attraction, a human can create any reality they want. We all came here for this reason. We knew nothing could come into our experience unbidden. We would create everything that happens in our experience.

This includes every relationship. A “relationship” is an Understanding of How we Relate to other energies. They can be Animate or Inanimate energy, as Everything is Everything (Plato); meaning that it is all made of the same source of energy.- Relationships exist as reflections of our internal realities. They show us our beliefs so we can know what we are thinking on a consistent basis, and in doing so, get more of what we want. This helps to expand all that is…just for the fun of it.

Sometimes we get off in the weeds wanting to figure out what we knew, when we came through the birth canal. That takes a while because we come into a whole world already established & following the habits of millenia. This world has out-dated ideas for How to BE in this “Reality”.!! They train the newly born those ideas, over-riding what is Known from Non-Physical. This establishes a Conflict of Feelings & perspectives within the programmable brain of the Be-ing human, infant. Doing that creates possibilities for a lot of what we don’t want as part of our future experience, while in the natural, normal, vibrational calibration process of the new one’s experience.

That means, the relationship you have must be of your creation. You created it for the purposes I offered above, no matter how shitty that is but there’s great news in that. It means you can create ANY experience, including a different relationship. In fact, you ALREADY HAVE*. So now, your job is to synchronize with that relationship instead of the one you’re in.

So, rather than (perhaps) looking at all the bad things in your relationship, you must first come to accept the relationship you’re in, as is. This is the first key (of several) to getting what you want (a different relationship or no relationship perhaps) regardless of the nature of the desire.!!
The reason this is the first key is because everyone is constantly creating. Whenever we look at something, just looking at that thing tells the Universe “give me more of that.” So no matter if you say “I don’t want this thing I’m looking at” if you keep looking at it, it gets (re)created over and over in your experience. This is the Law of Attraction; “That which is alike unto itself, is drawn.” There is no Assertion in this Attraction based Universe. No one can force their experience into yours without some Vibrational compatibility on your part. You have a thought/vibration Active about it also & so LoA draws them together. It‘s a Co-Creative process with EVERY like thought “contributing to the flow of That energy.

When you look at someone you care about and think thoughts consistent with how you have observed them acting, you perpetuate the experience because you’re giving your attention to, looking at what you “expect” from them, (Don’t want, instead of what you Do want). The idea that NOT remembering the past makes it happen again. Where LoA takes the ideas of the past & gathers more to you. LoA gathers the LIKE vibrational/thought energies from both of you & you both Re-Create the same experience, together. If it’s a behavior or feeling you Like or Appreciate, you Want to repeat it. How do you change it from one you Don’t like to one you Like?
Since you can’t force the change in another, the Only control you have is within You. You therefore, first have to feel your way into a “space” (vibrationally) that has you not pushing against that which you don’t want. The best way to do that is find things in your current situation that you Can appreciate. Those things don’t have to have anything to do with the current What-Is(reality). I’m sure you can come up with aspects of your “right now” that you can appreciate…(Breathing, seeing, hearing, Sunshine…the list is Eternal.)

Why do you want to do this? Two reasons. One, to stop you from pushing against your current reality and thus (re)creating it into your experience and 2-, to accept where you are in terms of what you want. If you don’t first accept it, wanting to change it, thinking you’re changing it, just exacerbates the Momentum of what got you there in the first place. Make sense?

So the first thing is, you have to accept what you have. IT DOESN’T MEAN ACCEPTING A SITUATION THAT IS ABUSING AND CONTROLLING.!! It DOES mean focusing on THE aspects of your “now reality” (What-Is) that you can accept and, perhaps, even appreciate. You come into acceptance/appreciation by making up (literally MAKE. IT. UP) thoughts that have you feeling better about where you are, at This moment. Like these, for example:

I appreciate I’m not homeless on the street
I like the house I live in
I like where I live (the state or city)
I like XX who is my best friend
I like that my sister is in my life
I love my dog. More than I like my spouse!?
I appreciate my body
I appreciate what I’m reading right now
Do this as much as you can. Make lists, carry a notebook, whatever tool allows greater Ease taking note(ice) of Satisfaction.!! The goal is not getting out of the relationship. You’ve already created the reality where you’re not in the relationship you’re in. So that job is done.

But that reality can’t become your reality until you stop (re)creating the reality in which you’re still in. When you stop doing that, and come into alignment with the reality you want, you’ll find yourself there. It may be a New one, a Me time one or even the Old one ReNewed to a better Feeling understanding. Here’s the Fun part; it’s all Your choice.

How do you know when you’re in alignment with the reality you want?

Good question. The first indicator is always your emotions. Acceptance is the first emotional indicator. That’s why you must first find that vibrational place where you accept, and then appreciate that where you are.

What’s next?

The next key, once you’ve solidified a vibration wherein you’re appreciating where you are; is to begin telling better stories about the circumstance you are experiencing. This can be tricky, especially if you’ve been in the situation for a while and have a lot of negative interpretation & momentum happening. And yet, it’s the direct route into the relationship you want.

Notice I didn’t write “it’s the direct route out of the relationship you have”. If you think “I want out of this relationship” not only are you telling the Universe “Universe, give me more of this relationship!” but LoA is reacting in kind. You’re also creating a poor vibrational alignment with what you want. Abraham calls this “running from, instead of running to.” You must cultivate an inner reality where you are moving towards what you want, not running away from what you don’t want. This is very important. This is also the source of your Negative emotions & feelings. Your Inner-Being’s(I-B) interpretation of your Observance of the current What-Is is from the perspective of the Universal Consciousness of LOVE.!! Your extension of Source Energy is constantly focused on what You want. If your focus is Not of a Like energy/vibration & with the LOVE I-B has within you, you get negative emotions/feelings. This is the 1st manifestation of the new “next” & indicates whether or not You LIKE the growing momentum. If not, CHANGE what your focus to what you Want.!!
There are stories you can create about your situation that can almost immediately help you feel better about your current situation. Several of my clients have literally (I mean LITERALLY) created new versions of their spouses, jobs, neighbors…in this way. It’s not impossible, and it’s easy. You just need to be very consistent and diligent about your thoughts. This may “inspire” new Action from a perspective of LOVE toward them. (see them as you In-vision them & treat them accordingly)

Here are some suggestions, although, because I don’t know your situation, they may not apply. Still, you should be able to create versions of these that do apply:

There was a time when I loved my husband/wife/job/neighborhood/city…
I loved them because of this (spell it out) and this (spell it out), and this (spell it out)
My spouse works hard to provide for us
My spouse is good at X
My spouse really enjoys X
When my spouse does X I see her/him light up
I know my spouse really has fun when she/he does X
I like it when my spouse has fun
When they are having fun, they are fun to be around
I feel better when they are having fun
Hmmm. I feel better now, thinking bout feeling better when they’re having fun
I feel better too, when they are not around
I like it when they are not around
When they are not around, I feel more myself
Hmmm. I like feeling more myself
I want to feel more myself
I really like myself
I feel more myself now, just thinking these thoughts
Feeling more myself feels good
Hmm. This process seems to be working
Feeling more myself feels better
I like feeling better
I want to feel better more
I appreciate that I feel better now
I feel better now than I have in a while
I appreciate feeling better
hmmm, I feel appreciation about feeling better
Feeling appreciation feels better than feeling better
Wow, feeling appreciation feels nice….
Then you might have access to the following accurate statements and through them, come into greater awareness about your spouse:

My husband/wife does what he does because she/he’s in her/his own pain
He/she probably feels fear or insecurity about something, maybe something she/he’s not telling me
He/she didn’t learn ways of being other than what they’re showing me right now
They’re a product of their upbringing like everyone
There was a time he/she was loving
So I know she/he is capable of that still
Still, no one does what my spouse does unless they are not allowing the flow of Source
He/she must be disconnected and that must feel awful.
Some sobering reality…

No one experiences anything other than what they’re a vibrational match to. In other words, you’re in the relationship because you created it, along with your spouses. So you must have some semblance of what’s happening in them, in you.

That’s why you’re in the relationship you’re in & why the relationship is in the state it is in; for Good or Less than Satisfactory.!!

So now, there are some thoughts you must create which uncover what’s happening in you that has you accept that. This is straight out of Law of Attraction so I’m not giving you my opinion. No one experiences anything other than their creations here are two messages direct from Abraham emphasizing this: (Insert Daily Quote from A-H- 01/09/22 & 01/29/22)

So some thoughts that can have you come into acceptance, then appreciation with what’s going on inside you are:

Hmm. My external reality accurately reflects my internal vibration
So what I’m experiencing now is showing me something very important
I want to know what that is
So to know that, I must first accept that I’m creating it. I’m not a victim here.
I believe (or want to believe) Law of Attraction
I believe I have a Broader Perspective or an Inner Being
I want to KNOW I have a Broader Perspective
I want to see evidence of my Broader Perspective guiding me
I know the first evidence is how I feel
So I want to feel better about where I am in my own being
Perhaps I believe I don’t deserve a better relationship than this
Perhaps I believe it’s my “fault” I’m here
I want to soothe those beliefs so I can feel better
I can do that
Hope feels better than doubt
I can be hopeful that I can change my inner reality
I want to believe (If I don’t) that my inner reality shifts creates outer reality shifts
I want to see evidence of that
Universe, show me evidence that my inner reality creates my external reality
Practicing such thoughts begins soothing beliefs that got you in this relationship in the first place.

Summarizing up to now…

So the first step is accepting where you are.
Second, find things about where you are that you can feel appreciation about, or at least find better-feeling emotions from thoughts that feel good to think
Third, begin telling yourself better stories or creating thoughts that you feel better about where you are right now
Fourth, do steps one through three on your inner reality
Repeat
Next

Next start doing things you like to do. This is important, because you want to begin shifting your attention to things and activities that you feel good about. It may be tiny things, such as taking your dog on a walk, taking yourself on a walk or watching a favorite TV show. It could be spending time with a friend, or eating a pint of ice cream, or cleaning your closet…

It doesn’t matter what it is, so long as whatever it is you feel good when you do it. Again the purpose is to raise your vibration. Why?

Because the relationship you already have created from this relationship exists, vibrationaly; but you can’t get in it until you are a match to it. If you think about the relationship you want, it probably conjures from with you some of the following emotions:

Relief (but that’s not so good because you’re still thinking about the old relationship in comparison to the desired one)
Eagerness
Encouragement
Positive expectation
Enthusiasm
Excitement
Hopefulness
Love
These are all indicating you are coming more and more into being a vibrational match to this relationship waiting for you in your Vortex or vibrational Escrow acct. If you can maintain these kinds of emotions, long enough to believe them in your “mind”, the Universe MUST draw to you the relationship that matches that and your current situation MUST morph on its own. IT IS LAW.!!

But thinking about this other relationship might also conjure the following, if you’re too fixated on your current situation in a negative way:

Longing
Fear
Insecurity
Yearning
Impatience
Insecurity
If those show up, you’re NOT a vibrational match to the Wanted relationship you created. Instead you’re still a match to your existing relationship, obviously. That means your current relationship will continue as is & the “other” is gonna stick around.

So this is why, as much as you can, you want to think thoughts and do things that you feel good in thinking them and doing them. The more you do that, the more you maintain alignment with that relationship you want, be it the new or old one.

Do that and, in time, the resistance present from you (re)creating your current relationship will subside. Meanwhile, you’ll build momentum consistent with this new, wanted relationship.
Then one day, you will be out and about, minding your own business, and you’ll meet somebody…you’ll know what to say, and so will they. Next thing you know, you’ll be having coffee or a meal together.

Or, you might come home and your spouse offers a way for you two to split up in an easy, effortless way.

Or, or, or…
You must be open to the idea (the fact, actually) that the Universe and your Broader Perspective know better than your Physical Brain you, how to move you from where you are to what you want, the journey to it, will surprise and delight you, if you allow it. Focus on the Life/Experience/Feeling/relationship that you truly Want without taking “Score” of the progress of your desire coming to you. Delight in the knowledge that is inevitable if you hold no resistance about it. follow your Emotional guidance & your Intuition. They will lead you to, down & along your/the Path of Least resistance (most Allowance) & the most fun along the way. They MUST because 1) that’s what your Broader Perspective and the Universe are there for and, 2) this is exactly how they work, for each of us.-JMO

Happpy Creating!!